I knew it – I’ve said it all along – play is a need! I feel the truth of it in the core of my very being – we need to play – as much as we need to be loved, feel connected, eat, drink and sleep – we need to play. But, seriousness reigns, it has taken over, work and duties rule the world.
We play when we are children, but as soon as we start school we are trained to sit still, put play aside, in order to learn to concentrate on more important stuff, like Math, Social Studies and English.
We are hushed and told to behave, we learn what is appropriate and what is not – and as we grow, sadly, play becomes more and more inappropriate. “You are too old for that! ” Play becomes a guilty pleasure taking our focus away from the “real” things in life, like work.
Dr. Stuart Brown, a researcher who has dedicated his life to the study of play and how play affects us, has found wonderful things about the importance of work, and so sorry: play! His research shows that play is good for us!
Kids do it, naturally. People in love do it, naturally. Animals do it, naturally. We all do it, naturally! But most of us work to suppress that part of us, many of us have actually forgotten how to do it and become uncomfortable even thinking about it. The old messages come up – don’t be silly now – it’s not appropriate – don’t make a fool of yourself, and so on.
I am so happy I stumbled upon Dr. Stuart Brown and learned about his research on play. Play is a need.
At the moment I am devouring Dr. Brown’s book that is simply called Play. On the back of his book it says:
“Play is fun, but it is anything but trivial. It is a basic biological drive as integral to our health as sleep and nutrition. When we play, we are open to possibility and the sparks of new insights. Play – defined as any kind of purposeless, all-consuming,restorative activity – is the single most significant factor in determining our success and happiness.”
I am sure he is right – if we don’t play there is an imbalance, there is something missing. I am sure you will agree with me that nothing heals like a good laugh, play makes us forget and we are in the moment, nothing else matters – it is food for the soul, and at the same time we connect with others and create bonds.
I hope you will enjoy this Ted Talk
The message is clear – LET’S PLAY 😉
More about the book, http://www.stuartbrownmd.com/
Life is too important to be taken seriously – Oscar Wilde
Haha Oscar Wilde has it right I certainly can’t imagine not kicking back and playing in life 🙂
Choc Chip Uru
Yes Uru – I love Oscar Wilde 🙂
So true. Society puts a lot of limitations, rules, and social pressures onto people. That is a great reminder. Thanks for sharing, Anne! I know I’ll enjoy reading the book.
I am really enjoying the book – he has such an important message!
I hope you will enjoy it too!
All work and no play makes Cassie a dull girl 😛
Me too Cassie – more play in the world 🙂
Awesome book Anne! Thanks for the recommendation – I couldn’t agree more! 🙂
Hi dear Shira – it really is a great book!
Thanks for reading 🙂
I need this book, despite what you might think, I’m sometimes far to serious and could stand a “lighten up” makeover 🙂
Right Somer we could all benefit from a little “lighten up” makeove 🙂
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Care to tell us how you play? 😀
I notice what makes my heart sing and I do more of that – I play when I cook, when I sing, when I dance, when I run, when Im with my kids and with my friends – I try to catch myself when I’m too serious and boring, then I know it’s time to plaY 🙂
🙂 thank you for replying Anne 🙂